This blog often contains uncomfortable subject matter and occasional sexual content. If you don't want to read about it, empower yourself to close the page. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- On needing people I was thinking just now about how lonely our individualist culture makes people. The focus on career success over personal development or developing relationships, or a sense of community, isolates people. There are some people, like BK or KO, who place a strong emphasis on being completely independent. BK wanted to be an "island" and KO says she doesn't depend on anyone but herself, because she's the only person she knows will never let her down. People with this mindset believe that needing someone makes a person weak, and it can. But allowing oneself to be vulnerable can also be incredibly freeing. We can drop the front, let our guard down for a minute, and let someone help us or even just soothe us, if they so choose. I think reaching out in that way can be a sign of strength, as opposed to weakness. You run the risk of taking it too far if you're not careful, and then you really do become weak, needy, acting helpless when you're really not. But as long as you keep a healthy balance of self reliance and honest vulnerability, I don't see a problem. I don't care how much other people try to deny it or dismiss it as weak, we need that kind of connection in our lives. 6:22 p.m. - 2014-04-21 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
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